Reading through the word of God, it is clear that God places a high premium on marriage. That should be so because we can observe that all of life – Church, Ministry, Nation, and what have you depends on it. God therefore instituted it at the right time – in the beginning!
It then means that marriage should not be handled lightly. It should not be entered into just because peers are doing so. The early disciples got the message clearly, and they were quick to say that it may be better to steer clear of marriage; but the Lord told them what they needed most was to know God’s mind about their situation (see Matthew 19:10-11).
Having known the mind of God as to whether or not they should enter into marriage, God expects those who want to do so to be matured. They must have been weaned, they should not be tied to mummy’s apron strings and they should not be daddy’s pet. We will like to state however, that the maturity we are talking about is neither just a function of age or academic attainment. For we have seen 45 year-old babies; those men who will ask their mothers’ permission before telling their spouses that they have just been promoted at work. And there are PhD holders who will starve their husbands at their parents’ instruction.
Ecclesiastes 3:1
To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven”
1 Corinthians 13:11
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understand as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
There is the need to get to the point of manhood where childish things will be put away. Of course that would happen at a particular time hence the Bible says there is a time for every purpose. Our spiritual mentor, Papa (Pastor E.A. Adeboye) says: “Several things could delay maturity in the sense of being ready for marriage”. He explained that education, finances, or secured jobs; and even the work of the Lord, could delay maturity.
Marriage sure needs maturity; are you there yet?